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Gina Badalaty is a lifestyle blogger for moms raising kids with special needs. She is passionate about living a nontoxic life, inclusion for kids with disabilities and technology to help kids thrive.
July 24, 2012Net Nanny for Android 2.0
Jul 30, 2018
Are you worried that you might be a helicopter mom? Safeguarding our children is a priority for moms today but you may think you are stepping over the line. Being too overprotective of a child can hinder their journey towards independence and may bring an unwanted level of rebellion in their teen years. (I speak from experience!)
How do you know if you are walking that fine line between helicopter parenting and common sense safeguards? This list may help:
You may be a helicopter parent if:
I'm not only guilty of some of these; I was raised by a helicopter parent myself. My mother tried to shield me from so many things that it is hard for me to do challenging tasks now. This is true for any child with an extremely protective and restrictive parent. Another result of helicopter parenting is that your child will have a tough time overcoming their fears. My fear of water is a result of Mom voicing her fears whenever I was in the water as a child. You may be planting your fearful seeds in your child's head unintentionally.
Bottom line: You are a helicopter parent if you don't let your child do activities that are age and developmentally appropriate on their own, don't let them fail, and always shield them from getting hurt.
However, we do live in a world where our children are exposed to more danger than ever, thanks to social media, the Internet, and the large number of connected devices in our kids' hands. We need to be smart parents by making sound choices about what to monitor at what age and how to give them more independence day by day. How do we protect our children without sheltering them from everything?
Smart parents give their kids freedom and set limitations with expectations that they can expand as they mature. Here are 6 habits of smart parenting:
Smart parents know that protecting the safety of their children is an action that should gradually be passed into that child's own hands as they grow. Don't worry about being a helicopter parent as you safeguard your child. Instead, teach them to protect themselves, online and off, as they grow.