Why Women Turn to Porn Addiction and How to Heal

Jun 24, 2015

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Think porn addiction is just a guy thing? Think again. It’s a common misconception that pornography is a "man's disease" but women are as susceptible as men to get pulled into the world of pornography and sexual addiction. Studies show that 17% of women consider themselves addicted to porn.

Media often portrays pornography as acceptable. The boundaries of what is considered appropriate are constantly being pushed. In my parents’ day, seeing a married couple in the same bed on TV was considered taboo. Today, let’s just say that not much is left to the imagination.

We’ve seen this with the recent hit Fifty Shades of Grey, which was dubbed “mommy porn” for a reason. Although Fifty Shades may not be the kind of mainstream pornography we might associate with erotic films and Playboy magazine, it’s full of sexually explicit content and has introduced many women into the world of pornography.

Pornography is highly addictive and can rewire the brain through the release of dopamine. Not only does pornography harm our brains, the visual stimuli has a negative impact on sexual desire. Many addicts have spoken about their inability to be aroused by their spouses because of the harmful choices they made earlier on in life.

If you suffer from pornography and sexual addiction, you are not alone. There is hope. By being proactive in the recovery process, you can beat your addiction one day at a time.

Here are 3 actions you can take today to help you on your path towards healing:

Plan of Action. When first starting out on your path of recovery, create a plan of action. This is a great long-term exercise to help keep you focused. The main objective of your plan is to create new positive habits to replace previously destructive habits. One new habit could be getting into a hobby. Hobbies are excellent for building self-esteem, meeting new people, and promote healthy living.

Positive self-talk. Shame is a common emotion in pornography addiction and can hinder recovery. Many addicts beat themselves up over their disease. Decide today to forgive yourself and be kind to yourself. Recovery takes time and it is important to remember to take each day as it comes. For positive affirmations, Louise Hay is an excellent resource.

Community service. Many great teachers talk about "losing yourself in service." If you are overwhelmed with negative feelings and desires, go out and perform an act of kindness for someone else. Volunteer at a local shelter, library, or community center, or find a hobby that can help you give back to your community.

For over 20 years, LifeStar Therapy has helped individuals, spouses, and families heal from the devastating effects of pornography addiction and other sexually compulsive behaviors. Through their innovative intensive outpatient program along with their proven three phase treatment gives participants the resources, support, and structure needed to experience a successful recovery from the damaging effects of pornography and sexual addiction.