Is Mainstream Culture Lashing Back Against Porn?

Feb 14, 2014

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The film Don Jon, which stars big names like Joseph Gordon-Leavitt, Scarlet Johansson, and Julianne Moore, was released on DVD this week. Though I haven’t seen the film nor do I recommend it, it carries a subtle theme that is a reversal to the mainstream opinions flowing out of Hollywood -- pornography will hurt you.

The film follows Don Jon, a twentysomething who struggles to balance both his love life and his secret addiction to pornography. It’s a story that depicts an issue many men (and women) face today. The film is a first of its kind, and though Hollywood will continue to make highly sexualized films, there’s a small indication that mainstream culture is beginning to notice the detrimental effects pornography is having on society as a whole.

When the film Don Jon arrived in the U.K., The Telegraph wrote an insightful article that addressed many of the issues that the film raises, specifically that a porn habit leaves men unable to relate to real women. The director and star of the film, Joseph Gordon-Leavitt later commented, “[Pornography is] a disconnection from what’s really in front of you. Rather than engaging with a unique individual and listening to what the other has to say, right at this moment, we put people in boxes with labels. We objectify each other.”

It’s not only Hollywood subtly blowing the whistle on the truth about pornography.  Last year, American GQ’s sex columnist, Siobhan Rosen, complained about the 'pornified sex' men expect from women today—“not in a relationship, when trust has been established,” She goes on to say, “but from the very first encounter. “

The problem with pornography is that it completely rewires the way the brain behaves in a relationship. When pornography is viewed, endorphins are released to activate the pleasure centers of the brain. Traditionally, these pleasures centers were used to help strengthen and solidify a relationship, but pornography tricks these endorphins into being released without any relation to another human at all.

The brain slowly becomes rewired to think that relationships are nothing more than an opportunity to satisfy pleasure rather than building true loving relationship. And with pornography being mostly unrealistic and often violent, many men struggle to relate with women, and women suffer to understand what men expect of them. In the end, both genders become confused and frustrated due to the effects of pornography. And it affects everyone.

With the highly sexualized culture we live in today, it’s important to not only protect ourselves, but also our children. Talk with children often about their online activity and set up porn filters and blockers to help keep them out of trouble. If they are exposed to pornographic material, explain to them why pornography is wrong, using vocabulary a child or teen can understand.

The quicker we get pornography out of our mainstream culture, the quicker our society can heal from pornography’s woes.

http://www.charismanews.com/opinion/42282-has-a-porn-backlash-in-mainstream-culture-finally-begun